Pity is not a strong foundation to build attraction on.
Even for the most talkative of women, this can feel a little overwhelming.
Women like to create a sense of mystery, and you should be conveying this yourself, too. When a guy says this to us on a first date, it gives us the impression that he is “testing the waters” because he is unsure if we will agree.
Let the conversation flow, and let her reveal the hidden sides to her personality by gently provoking or challenging her, rather than making huge demands on her. Instead, try and implement what I like to call “future projections”.
Similar to #2, never discuss any subject matter on a ‘first date’ that is not relevant to helping you determine if the woman you are on the date with is ‘long-term girlfriend material.’ Alan Roger Currie is a professional dating coach and author of ‘Mode One: Let the Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking’ and ‘Oooooh . For more information, visit Currie’s page or his website, Instead of just asking what someone does for a living or what their favorite film is, finding out why they do what they do or why they like that film will get them to reveal more about their personality and create a deeper connection.
Do you really want to hear all the grizzly details of her past relationships or how she cut herself when she was shaving her legs earlier that day?
Then tell her that she has to be the one to choose the next date, AGAIN, and this is very important, you must say this in a playful manner.
Always stay committed to your decisions, and never be apologetic about them either.
We use the word “nice” when describing something we have no real passion for, such as a “nice cup of tea.” Think about things you adore, that excite you or inspire you and then see if the word “nice” can articulate those emotions.
Replace the word “nice”, “lovely” or even “pretty” with something more dynamic and that focuses on a more detailed attribute of hers.