On some level you must have known that she would be bothered by it, and you chose not to tell her.I don’t say this to judge or to blame, but I think it is important to be clear about what has been happening.When you start to date your best friend, you gain a lot: a protector, undeniable confidence, and a feverish determination to make your relationship work. Read on to find out why taking on the challenge is a tough feat, but at the end of the day, totally worth it.You don't need to bother trying to read your own best friend's mind because you already know what he or she is about to say.I am not saying that what you have isn’t real, but might you find yourself in a similar situation four years from now?I imagine your friend thought their love was the real thing, too.It happened right before my eyes: the guy sitting across the table, who I used to text about the really awkward dates I went on, transformed into the person I wanted to be kissing at the end of the night.
There will be no shortage of people with opinions and judgment.You are sacrificing a long-lasting friendship for an uncertain future. Best of luck, Erika Erika Myers, MS, MEd, LPC, NCC is a licensed psychotherapist and former educator specializing in working with families in transition (often due to separation or divorce) as well as individuals seeking support with relationship issues, parenting, depression, anxiety, grief/loss/bereavement, and managing major life changes.Although her theoretical orientation is eclectic, she most frequently uses a person-centered, strengths-based approach and cognitive behavioral therapy in her practice.You believe this relationship could be serious and real, so why not stop hiding? You can’t expect your friend to be happy for you, not right away, at least, and perhaps not ever.What you can do is honor your long-standing friendship by being honest with her about what is happening, and own the fact you know you have hurt her.