A good “lol” placed in a text message shows a woman you’re making a joke.
It’s not literally meant to mean that you’re “laughing out loud,” but it has transformed more into meaning that you’re joking or find something funny.
You’ll want to appear as if you’re high status and busy as well and take your time in replying to her, too. You don’t want to appear too available as this makes you look needy. You’ve probably done this before already, thinking that if you didn’t reply to her fast enough, she might lose attraction for you or she might be upset with you because you take too long and that might ruin your chances with her. Come on, admit it, you’ve done this before; everyone has. It’s not a rule that should be followed to a tee, but it should be loosely followed, and if done, should put you into an attraction-building position.
I say loosely followed here because you don’t want to always text her eleven minutes after she texts you if she usually takes about ten minutes to text you. If she is in a pattern of texting you every ten minutes or so, and you have seven texts between you, take 15 minutes, 20 minutes, 8 minutes, 10 minutes, 30 minutes, 5 minutes, 13 minutes. They’re more of the natural timing texts between friends would be.
Take that “lol” out of the sentence, and it really just comes across as strange.
But when you keep it in, it shows that you’re just making a joke out of something boring. It’s so much easier to come up with your own as this has no context for a real conversation and would be useless if you tried to duplicate it.
Instead, use it rather sparingly and interchangeably with the smiley faces. Otherwise, you’ll come off as trying too hard to be funny and look weak.
What I started to do was just put my phone on silent and leave it on my charger, upside down.
This way, it would charge, it would be on, and I would get the text message.
If you develop a pattern of taking the same amount of time to text her every time you respond back, she’ll pick up on this and know that you are literally just waiting to text her. At the same time, they build interest in you because you’re getting back to her as part of your normal day, unlike most guys who’d text her back right away. When figuring out what to text a girl it can be tough to take your time texting a woman, especially when you’re really interested in her, and it seems counter-intuitive to think that by waiting (and potentially making her upset) you’re actually making her more interested in you. If she flips the script and takes forever to get back to you, and you (like I do) get anxious waiting for her reply, just put down your phone and do something fun.
During this time, she’ll wonder what you’re doing, why you’re not like all those other guys she talks to, and why you aren’t texting her right away. I used to frequently fall into the trap many people these days fall into, and that is that we keep our cell phones with us at all times.