Dating someone in your college class

I am asking because I don’t know if this agreement is assumed on your part or if he explicitly said, “Yes, you and I are exclusive…” or, better yet, “I want to be exclusive with you.” I’ll explain why I bring that up in a moment, but at any rate I agree with you that checking his dating profile seems out of step with having an exclusive relationship with you…

I also wouldn’t even classify this as snooping, per se. You didn’t somehow break into and read his emails or texts.

You’re just seeing what he’s doing online and that information is freely available to the world.

Your motivations for checking up on this are worth looking at, though, because it gives me the feeling that either something inside you feels like you don’t quite trust this guy or that you don’t trust the relationship you’re in to have trust as a quality (and so you’re always checking and testing because you don’t have that trust to begin with…

Only you can decide if what you learn convinces you to keep participating in the relationship or not.

And I while it did make me feel confused and a bit nervous, I figured it’s always possible it could have been something innocent – maybe you were canceling the service, changing your billing info, etc. if you want something other than an exclusive relationship…

So this may or may not be a situation you need to say NO to…

It is possible that when you talk to him, you’ll gain insight into his position.

I know I am being sneaky/snoopy by checking up on him to see how often her goes on the site (and he goes on often! It’s not like I’d call this guy my boyfriend already, I know it’s still early… Author’s note: I have expanded the content of this article since it’s original post (as I do from time to time).

This is thanks, in part, to your excellent comments and questions from the audience.

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