Dating handle rejection

What makes rejection even more painful is that any effort to understand what went wrong can easily lead to bouts of self-criticism and self-blaming.Did they reject you because you’re not tall enough, smart enough, attractive enough, rich enough, educated enough, or hip enough? Then you start to second guess everything you did and said.Specifically, make a list of qualities you have that are important in dating and relationships such as being loyal, caring, supportive, considerate, a good listener, a great cook, a good kisser, and as many others as you can think of.Choose one of these attributes and write a brief essay (a paragraph or two) about why the quality matters to you, why a future partner would find it valuable, how you’ve expressed it in past dating or relationship scenarios, or how you would do so in the future.Anyone who enters the dating world is bound to encounter rejection.Whether your online messages to dating prospects go unanswered, you have a great first date but never hear from the person again, or you get dumped after things were just starting to heat up, all rejections have one thing in common — they really hurt.

If there is one thing that most people can't stand, one thing that almost always gets an intense, emotional response, it's rejection. Scenario 1: You go out to a bar on the weekend with your friends.And if they give you the, “It’s not you, it’s me,” speech — believe them.In fact, even if they don’t, assume it’s them nonetheless.You berate yourself for disclosing your fascination with sea urchins, for ordering noodle soup and making slurping noises, or for joking about how you got the scar on your middle finger.All this self-punishment makes you feel utterly miserable and you wonder when you became so weak, needy, or desperate.

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