You decide that you're going to make an extra copy of your house key and give it to the one you care about so much. So which of the two responses to rejection was warranted? It took me a while to understand this, but here's the truth: Rejection is nothing.
Unfortunately, he or she didn't see the relationship going in the same direction. Not that it doesn't exist, because it certainly does. It has no impact on you unless you let it have an impact on you. Sometimes, it doesn't happen all at once in a single moment, but is spread out over months, even years.
It probably is anyway, and your self-esteem will thank you for it. Now that you’ve given your self-worth a breather from self-criticism, you need to help it revive.
The best way to revive your self-esteem is to remind yourself of qualities and attributes you possess that you believe are valuable.
Even if you seemed to click with the other person, the reality is, you just didn’t click enough.
And if they felt insufficient compatibility, you would likely have felt it yourself at some point as well.
Consequently, we developed a mechanism to warn us of when we were at danger for being ousted from our tribe and as a result, we became exquisitely sensitive to rejection.
There are some people who get rejected left and right and can continue living as if nothing happened. Unfortunately, not all of us are so impervious to rejection.
You're all having a good time, chatting and having a couple of drinks, when you see a beautiful stranger at the other side of the room.
Anyone who enters the dating world is bound to encounter rejection.
Whether your online messages to dating prospects go unanswered, you have a great first date but never hear from the person again, or you get dumped after things were just starting to heat up, all rejections have one thing in common — they really hurt.