Juli Slattery is a TCW regular contributor and blogger.
There are two popular, misleading ways of relating the Bible to dating. In other words, the institution of dating does not receive its legitimacy from covenantal realities and does not “sanctify” as marriage does (1 Cor. Dating is merely the way our culture manages the transition from singleness to marriage without the ancient (secular) courtship structures.
A healthy marriage is impossible without traits like integrity, kindness, and unselfishness.
How can you be sure that he is really working late when he doesn’t come home until ?
Redemption: (8) Your primary goal should be to assist the other person in growing in sanctity and love for Christ and others (Phil. (9) Because of our union with Christ, the brother/sister relationship is the foundational relationship between two dating Christians (Mark ; 1 Cor. But more than anything else, I pray that sanity and peace would come to my peers in the world of Christian dating.
The truth is you could spend your life with more than one person. Get to know yourself.” And as soon as the person you are dating smacks his or her gum the wrong way, you are out. I heard don’t have sex before marriage so much I actually believed getting to marriage a virgin was the only important thing. In the process, I filled my heart and mind with lust, and I secretly struggled with pornography. Christians, instead, need to teach the importance of a pure mind. Make sure God is the center of your life before you start dating. Don’t start dating without an assurance of God’s love for you and a solid understanding of the gospel.
The dating world, however, is not the place to be a missionary.
Like that annoying kid at church camp who wouldn’t leave you alone. Don’t ever date someone who won’t honor purity with you. Remember…if you are dating, you haven’t entered into the sacred bond of marriage. Co-dependent dating leads to co-dependent marriages. And co-dependent marriages eventually crumble because the weight on them is too heavy. In fact, every principle discussed in this article is null and void without God at the center.
” The most serious red flags in my book can be summed up with 3 C’s.
I would rather marry an unattractive, boring man with great character than the most charming guy who lacks it.