I remember a few years ago only seeing older Black women with White men (my mum being an example of this), however, now lots of girls and younger women are expanding their horizons, not just because they cannot find a Black man, but because they choose non-Black men.There will always be women who will wait for a Black man.The eccentric, open-minded and tolerant reputation of the British is, in general, accurate.However, I often read American blogs that advise Black women to go to Europe as it is more likely that they’ll find love with a slight irritation – dating non-Black men here is certainly no easier than anywhere else.Like many other sisters I know, Jem would rather be in a relationship with a Black man, but realises that she may be waiting forever if she rules out everyone else.I believe that plenty of Black women here have accepted this now, and would rather expand our options, but we’ve had similar experiences to Ally when we try this, which leaves us confused about how we are perceived by men in general.But non-Black men just seem to stick with White women here.I’ve interacted with plenty of White guys, but it’s never clear if they are interested in a relationship or not, even when we’re on a date.
On the other hand, Jem, a fellow Teacher disagrees slightly with Ally and says that like me she isn’t short of attention from Black men, but they aren’t on our wavelength in terms of education, job or outlook.
I should also add here that Black people of African descent buck this trend slightly, and there appear to be more of them dating within their ethnic group.
I am a Black British teacher, and many of my friends are also in professional vocations.
Their reasons for not dating Black women echo the ubiquitous ‘’they have horrible hair and a bad attitude’’ or ‘‘I’m simply not attracted to them’’.
I’d like to note here that I don’t live in London, and so the dating experiences of Black women there may be different to those who live outside the capital.